Teasing children about their size, weight, height, or body shape, can have deep and lasting psychological effects. What might seem like a passing comment to an adult can become a defining wound for a child.
Emotional and Psychological Impact
Lowered self-esteem:
Children often internalize teasing, leading them to feel abnormal, ashamed, or unworthy—even if there's no objective reason to feel that way.
Distorted self-image:
Remarks like “looks like someone’s getting a belly” or “are you sure you want to eat that?” can warp a child’s perception of their body, regardless of their actual health.
Increased risk of anxiety and depression:
Repeated teasing—especially from family members—can heighten emotional distress and contribute to long-term mental health issues.
Avoidance behaviors:
Kids may withdraw from physical activities, social situations, or even school to escape environments where they feel vulnerable.
Behavioral Consequences
Bullying others:
Some children cope by redirecting their pain, becoming bullies themselves to feel a sense of control.
Disordered eating:
Shame around food and body image can lead to unhealthy relationships with eating, either restriction or bingeing.
Family Teasing:
Especially Harmful. Comments from parents or relatives—even if well-intentioned—can be more damaging than peer teasing. Children often view family as their emotional compass, so teasing from loved ones can feel like a betrayal.
What Helps
Affirmation and support:
Reinforcing that every body is worthy and teasing is never okay.
Open dialogue:
Encouraging kids to talk about their feelings and experiences.
Modeling healthy behavior:
Adults should avoid moralizing food or body types and instead promote kindness and self-acceptance.
The story of Lucky, the bullied little monkey
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Lucky, the sweet-natured little monkey, was teased and bullied by the animals who didn't take time to get to know her. They said she was a dumpy, chunky, silly, scaredy, grumpy, clumsy monkey. Lucky was sad, but when her friend told her that instead of feeling miserable, she should listen to others who knew her and said she was a kind, lovely, cuddly, bubbly, spunky monkey.