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Monday, July 30, 2018

What Would Make YOU Happy? by Grace Augustine #OurAuthorGang



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   So, today's thousand dollar question is...what makes you happy? Take a moment to think about that...your happiness. How do you become happy? When are you happy? Why are you happy? 

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Will money  make you happy?

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What about the other half of your heart?


   A professor at Duke University discovered in 2001 that among adults with coronary artery diseases the risk of cardiac death was 2.4 times higher for those who were socially isolated than for their socially connected peers.
   40 million adults in the US (18.1 percent of the population) suffer from anxiety disorders. This is according to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America.  FORTY MILLION, people. That is way too many.
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   What if I told you that you could start being more joyful right now?  What if I told you that you could calm part of your anxiety? Would you believe me?  Well, you can...we can.
   According to an article in the July edition of O Magazine, a 2012 New Zealand study found that the following behaviors enhanced enjoyment:

1.  TALKING TO ANOTHER PERSON ABOUT HOW GOOD YOU FEEL
2.  THINKING ABOUT HOW LUCKY YOU ARE
3.  THINKING ABOUT RECAPPING THE EXPERIENCE FOR OTHERS
4.  LAUGHING
5.  TELLING YOURSELF HOW PROUD YOU ARE
6.  FOCUSING ON THE PRESENT

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   I'm sure at some point in time all of us have read this above quote. There is truth to it. Our lives cannot get better or move forward until change happens, and WE MUST BE the change.
  Happiness isn't something that is bred into us. It's a choice. 
   "It is not happiness that makes us grateful. It's gratefulness that makes us happy." --David Steindl-Rast
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   Here is a little exercise to bring joy into your life...I hope you will considering doing these steps. (again, ideas taken from an article by Molly Simms entitled What Would Make You Happy? in the July edition of O Magazine...oprah.com/gethappy)

WEEK 1:  Take stock in yourself and write things down that come to mind. They may be sentences like "I feel like a failure" or "As I look back on my life all I see are victories" or somewhere in between.  Then make a list each day for 7 days of what you are grateful for.
WEEK 2:  Concentrate on social connections and acts of kindness. Are you a face to face social person? Or, do you sit behind a computer or cell phone for your conversations?  This week, you will need to move out of the shadows and into the real world and communicate face to face.  How can you be kind to someone? A smile, a note, a phone call, a lunch meeting?  DO SOMETHING WITH SOMEONE.
WEEK 3:  Self care. How well do you take care of you? Concentrate on exercising more and getting more sleep.
WEEK 4: Take 10 minutes...TEN MINUTES...out of your day to meditate.  Clear your mind, go outside, or find a space to just be quiet. Train your mind to be quiet...whether that is through yoga, true meditation or prayer. Learn to breathe. Learn to be aware of the sights and sounds around you.
   And, if you are feeling particularly in the mood of gratitude...take time to write a note to someone in your life who needs to hear how much you appreciate them. Write down why, memories, and thank yous. Next, call that person or skype with them or do the phone message thingy where you can talk with each other and see each other--or (novel idea) make plans to be together. Share aloud what you've written. It is a soul cleansing that I guarantee will affect you for the better.
   See....that's not so hard. Our world needs more people who are connected...face to face connected. We need to be those people, the people who are kinder and more giving than those always taking
   By instilling an attitude of gratitude within ourselves, it assures that we can and will be on the right track to happiness.
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Nikki McDonagh

6 months ago  -  Shared publicly
 
Great post, Grace. I know it is the simple things that make me happy. I don't need stuff just people I love and watching nature in all her glory.
 
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Rebecca Tran via Google+

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Great tips Grace we should all remember try to connect with those around us.
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Thanks, Rebecca!

Ruth de Jauregui via Google+

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Author Grace Augustine​ shares some tips on ways to improve your outlook on life and how they can lead to a happier you. #OurAuthorGang
 
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Rebecca Tran via Google+

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Grace Augustine shares ways to increase your happiness on #OurAuthorGang
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Ruth de Jauregui

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Thank you so much for these wonderful ideas on how to change our own outlook on life. Great post!
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Thank you, Ruth!

Joanne Jaytanie via Google+

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Are you happy? Stop by and read today's post. Some great ideas are shared. #OurAuthorGang
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Joanne Jaytanie

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Some great advise. Thanks for sharing, Grace.
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Thanks Joanne!

Joe Bonadonna via Google+

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Today on #OurAuthorGang, author Grace Augustine​ begs the question, "What would make you happy?" Great insight and some wonderful suggestions, too.
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Thanks, Joe!
 
+Grace Au -- you're very welcome!

Joe Bonadonna

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Fascinating article, Grace. Some excellent suggestions, too. Just had a similar conversation with someone over the weekend. What would make you happy? Indeed!
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None of us truly know until we sit down and really think about this. We "think" we know...but until we dissect our lives to the core, what we think and what is actually the motivator are two totally different things. Happiness comes in a variety of ways. We always must seek with an attitude of gratitude being the #1 key to achieving happiness!
 
+Grace Au -- Amen to that! It's interesting that you posted your article at a time when I've been trying to find a new path to happiness, or at least remove some of the obstacles I keep tripping over.

Chris Weigand via Google+

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Check out ways Grace Augustine​ suggests to increase happiness.
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Chris Weigand

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Thanks for the great advice. I will definitely have to incorporate some of the suggestions into my life.
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Thanks, Chris

Toi Thomas

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Great post. I like the breakdown of different things to do each week.
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Thanks,Toi. Yes, breaking down things helps make them not so overwhelming.

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Today, Grace Augustine​ offers reflections and tips on how to be happy. #OurAuthorGang
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Grace Au

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Join me today as I discuss some possible tips to your happiness.
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Erika M Szabo

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Great advice for everyone Grace! I'm an overall happy person but funny that you mentioned meditation Lorraine, it doesn't work for me either for a different reason. I attended a yoga class for a short while and one class happened to be on my birthday. When we sat on the mat to meditate, my friend snuck up to me and smeared whipped cream all over my face. The entire class came over to lick it off and they sang happy birthday. Since then, every time I start meditating I giggle and give it up :)
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Thanks, Erika. Meditation or quieting of your mind takes practice. I haven't mastered it...I keep trying, though!

Lorraine Carey

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Did this post ever come at the right time for me, Grace! I really needed this. I try to do all of the steps but #4 is something I have let go. I used to meditate on a regular basis but lately have let that slip by the wayside. Excellent tips here! Thank you for posting.
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Lorraine, I thought that very same thing when I read the article that spurred me to write this post. I spent 30 min. every morning (before kids and during the college years) in prayer and meditation. Now, not so much. I usually use my time right before bed to journal and pray. It takes discipline and that is something I sorely lack most days.
 
+Grace Au Yes. I agree. It seems harder now with the kids out of the house and being retired. I have to get back into this.

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