Friday, August 3, 2018

It’s Just a dog…And that’s what makes them so extraordinary ~ by Joanne Jaytanie

Anyone who knows me knows how important my Dobermans are to me. Yes, they are just dogs…pure of spirit and willingness to do anything and everything for you. Dogs embody unconditional love personified. They will protect you from danger and rejoice with you in happiness. They sense when you are sad and they will comfort you. My Dobermans were always attentive. Extremely intelligent beings who always understood our conversations. Look into their eyes. There you will see what I say is true.

Because my dogs are so paramount in my life, I wanted to write about this topic. At the same time, it’s an extremely painful issue, for I recently lost my girl, Maya.

My Facebook post the day we lost Maya:

At midnight last night, Maya walked into the exam room where we were feeding her, stub wagging and flashing her beloved smile she always bestowed on me. She didn’t want me feeding her, but I needed to do it and she let me. When we were getting near the end of the can I scooped more food out, turned and saw the look in her eyes. She was done. But I knew she would fight to the end for Ralph and me if that’s what I asked.

At 9:54 this morning I cradled my Maya Baby in my arms for one last time. I told her I loved her with all my heart, and that it was okay for her to go to her brother, Tristan, and mommy, Anya. I kissed her and whispered into her ear all the things she meant to me. Reminded her I held her as she came into this world and would hold as she went out. She didn’t move a muscle, still, I felt the moment she left us. I wanted to tell her to fight. To stay with us, but if I did, she would, and it wasn’t fair to her. My first priority is always what’s best for my Doberman and their quality of life. So, I waited until we left the hospital before I said; I didn’t want her to leave, I wanted her to come home and enjoy life with us for a little longer. My heart is torn in two. The tears refuse to slow. I can’t believe she won’t be here tomorrow.

This morning at 11:30 I walked into our house and unlike the past 36 years…no Doberman was waiting to greet me at the door. The feeling is devastating. Everywhere I look, I see Maya. Every sound I hear, I think it’s her. I expect to see her stretched out on her bed next to my desk or pawing at me because I’m not petting her. I already miss her crazy, funny antics, like bouncing into her bed that’s against the couch, front paws landing on the couch cushion, waiting for me to start rubbing her. Not only did we lose our sweet, funny, loving girl, but she carried the torch for all those before her. They’ve been an important part of my life. They are part of our family. Always by my side when I was upset, happy, lonely, or to have a conversation with. They gave me such love, joy, laughs, and companionship.

 Ch. Jaytanie’s Made In Basic Black
~Maya~
March 8, 2006 ~ May 28, 2018

I wasn’t planning on posting at all today. But the more I thought about all the love, well-wishes, and prayers my friends showered us with, the more I realized I couldn’t leave you wondering. Your support has helped me, and I want you each to know, Ralph and I, deeply, sincerely, appreciate it—Thank you.

Maya

I wasn’t sure where to start with this post until I reread the post about the flowers I received from Maya’s cardiologist.


Each of my Dobermans represents different times in my life. I’ll introduce you to all of them. I’ve gained so many great friends because of my dogs. What a perfect way to honor Maya and all my Dobermans, by sharing my friend’s thoughts, a bit of their lives, and the impressions they’ve made along the way.

Today’s guest is my long-time friend, Noel Ritter. She is the owner of Guiding Hands Pet Obedience. Noel has taught puppies, people, and dogs since 1992. She is an ASCA Judge and actively shows her dogs in obedience, agility, breed, rally, and herding. Her perfect day is a day spent with her Australian Shepherds, known by all who love this breed as Aussies, herding ducks, sheep, and cows or simply training in general.




Noel and I’ve been friends for years. We are kindred spirits when it comes to dogs and often share each other’s thoughts about them. I asked her if she would share some thoughts with you and here is what she said:

Me: What age were you when you welcomed your first dog into your life?
Noel: I had an imaginary dog as a child, name was Nicky. Got a dog of my own when I was 18.

Me: What part do your dogs play in your life?
Noel: My entire life is made up of dogs. I speak to dogs all day long, I seek their company and I hope they seek mine.

Me: How important are the dogs in your life?
Noel: Dogs are my life. They give me the ability to express myself to people.

Me: Do you vacation or take trips with your dog?
Noel: I take road trips because of my dogs. I like to see my dogs have vacations.

Me: Do you remember when you and I first met? What was the scenario?
Noel: We met at Bonnie Greens competitive obedience classes.
Me: This was 1994. I decided to get back into obedience training with Misty and Noel was training her corgi, Bonnie.


Noel is also an LMT, Licensed Massage Therapist, for both people and dogs. All my dogs loved, Auntie Noel. Both Tristan and Maya would smile when they saw her. Noel has a magical touch and played a huge roll in maintaining my dog’s mobility and health. I asked her what her impression is with regards to her gift to heal and here’s what she told me:

“It is the power we all have, touch. To be a massage therapist is a true gift to myself, and I hope to my canine clients.

When I first approach a dog, I just put my hands on them and let them get used
to my touch. A bond happens. Not with all dogs, but most.

I have a few elderly canine clients that are very explicit about their massage. I try to listen, as it is their massage.

One dog, in particular, is part of a large pack. When I work on the pack, she must be the very last one. I start yawning and could go right to sleep. Every time.

Then there are dogs like Maya. Royalty really. A lovely Doberman pincher girl who smiles. If you were very lucky, she would smile for you.

I could tell when she hurt. I could tell when it was nerve pain or neck pain. She always wanted me to work on her neck. For the longest time, she would back up to me and sit so I could work on her back.

I think Maya told me secrets. She loved going to the ocean and looking for shells. Of course, that is just my musing. Massage therapists are like that though, we can read through touch.

When you can smooth their brow and settle them from hurting, we can take fancy and believe she likes to search for seashells. When I could see Maya walk and be silly, that was her gift to Me. Touch is a simple thing involving the spirit and the mind. To connect at that deep level. To reach across to another species, that is the spirit. I feel her through the touch, the memory in my fingers. I give that gift to others that she gave to me…She was my muse.”

Noel with Maya

Me: Without using the word, love, please describe what your dogs mean to you, in no more than 2 sentences. In other words, what you are describing is your definition of Love.
Noel: My spirit. They are a gift of grace to me in my life.

Noel is the lead trainer at Naturally 4 Paws in Silverdale, Washington.
You can find out more about Noel and her Aussies on her Facebook page:
 Noel Ritter's Facebook Page

Thank you, Noel, for sharing your love of dogs with us.


My entire adult life has revolved around dogs. I’m a member of the Doberman Club of America (DPCA), Puget Sound Doberman Pinscher Club (PSDPC), and Peninsula Dog Fanciers’ Club (PDFC). I was a board member of PSDPC. I served on the board of PDFC in the office of President for a total of  9 years, Vice President for 6 years, a board member for 4 years. I was the Show Chair for our all-breed show. I was the first AKC Delegate for PDFC and have held the office since 1999.

I began studying holistic/all-natural feeding in 1994 and organized a seminar in Seattle featuring Wendy Volhard. A woman I consider the pioneer in all-natural rearing.

I’ve shown dogs in breed, obedience, agility, and rally for 18 years. I handled a Bullmastiff to the top 10 Bullmastiff in the PNW. Four of my Dobermans are AKC Champions. I’ve worked with the 4-H in dog-related projects.

I bred two litters of Doberman puppies. Both times we kept a boy and a girl. Raising and training two puppies keeps you on your toes.
1st picture: Noel w/Tristan & Maya    2nd picture: Me w/Tristan &Maya

Not only are my dogs integral to my life, they played a major role in the turning point between which of my two career paths I would walk down. My Dobermans were my muse to finally putting my fingers on the keyboard and finishing my first book. Something I’d wanted to do from a very young age.

Dobermans play a role in my Winters Sisters series. Each book has one of my dogs on the cover. They also appear in a number of my novellas.

In my next installment, I will explain the connection of my dogs to my Winters Sisters Series. They were the driving force behind the birth of this series. I will also introduce you to another of my amazing dog-loving friends.

I would love for you to share your dog stories with me. Post your story in the comments below.

Until next time...
Joanne

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Joanne Jaytanie via Google+

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Do dogs play a part in your life? Stop over and share your stories with me. #OurAuthorGang
 
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Ruth de Jauregui via Google+

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Joanne Jaytanie shares her beloved Maya with us today. #OurAuthorGang
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Ruth de Jauregui

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I'm teared up after reading your lovely post about Maya -- and I looked over at the bed and my little Romeo (aka Scruffy) is watching me and wagging his tail. Thank you for sharing.
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Thank you for that perfect image, Ruth. Give Romeo an extra hug from me.

Jacquolyn McMurray

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Thanks for sharing. My heart still aches every time I think about you losing your Maya.
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Thank you, Jacquolyn. I miss her every day...

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Today on #OurAuthorGang, author Joanne Jaytanie-Duncan​ talks about dogs, Dobermans in particular, and the passing of her beloved dog, Maya.
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Joe Bonadonna

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I love this, Joanne! Great story, and I look forward to meeting your dogs. Dogs are gods, they are angels, they are the best and most protective and loving souls throughout Mankind's history, reincarnated as canines, to love, guard and make us smile. I have been watching a PBS show called The Secret Life of Dogs. Amazing!
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Thank you for your kind words, Joe. I'll have to find that show. It sounds wonderful.
 
+Joanne Jaytanie -- you're welcome. Check your local PBS channels. The show talked about how dogs were domesticated for purposes of work and protection, then cross-bred, then bred for pets, etc. They talked about how dogs see and how powerful is their sense of smell. Very informative. I loved the segment on how they select dogs, raise them and train them to be service dogs. Incredible!

Rebecca Tran

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Joanne your story brought me to tears. I can feel how much you loved Maya.
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Thank you, Rebecca. She was an amazing girl.

Rebecca Tran

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Are you a dog lover? Joanne Jaytanie introduces us to a great dog named Maya on #OurAuthorGang
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Thank you, Rebecca.

ralph duncan

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Needless to say every time i read this or think about this my heart aches. But, I am so thankful to have known our babies. Thankful to have married a woman who has so much capacity to care for a breed we both love --oh yeah, and so thank Noel does human massages too.
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Thank you, Dear.

Joanne Jaytanie via Google+

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Chris Weigand via Google+

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A touching story by Joanne Jaytanie about the love of her Dobermans
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Chris Weigand

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Touching story. Thanks for sharing.
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Thank you, Chris.

Toi Thomas

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What a touching and honest story. Our dogs are part of our lives and families, and even if they are just dogs, that's more than enough. Thank you for sharing your story. Your Maya was a lovely doberman.
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Thank you, Toi. Maya was amazing.

Toi Thomas via Google+

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Today, Joanne​, shares a touching story of love, loss, and the wonders of caring for dogs. #OurAuthorGang
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Thanks, Toi.

Grace Au

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Joanne is the newest full member of #ourauthorgang  and we're so glad you're with us! What a tribute to your companion! I've been blessed by knowing Tristan and Maya via the internet and our phone calls...and I know how special each were in their own way. Noel sounds like an awesome lady who is perfect for her calling. One person I must meet for sure when I venture your direction. Thank you for sharing your heart with all of us. It takes courage to lay open those grief wounds and be vulnerable. Surrounding you with much love.
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Thank you, Grace. It was extermely difficult. I hesitated about doing it every step of the way. I almost changed it late last night. Thank you for always being here to "cry on your shoulder" and for your support. Thank you for your friendship.

Tricia Drammeh

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I'm so sorry for your loss, Joanne. I still cry for my Rudy, who we lost 6 years ago. We finally adopted another dog 3 years ago. Even though my heart didn't feel ready to allow another dog into my life, my family was ready. I love our dog Tasha, but she can't take the place of Rudy - just like no other dog will ever take Tasha's place. Every dog is special and unique. Thank you for sharing your story about Maya. She was lucky to have you just as you were lucky to have her.
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Thank you, Trica. I understand completely. Each of my dogs hold a piece of my heart. I love them all just as fiercely - in different ways.

Nikki McDonagh

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Lovely post. I grew up with cats and dogs and had an Alsatian, Jinxy, who followed me wherever I went, so I can relate to this story.
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Thank you, Nikki. Pets have a way of keeping us balanced..

Lorraine Carey

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What a heartfelt post, Joanne. I cried when I read about your Maya. I wish I had the courage and strength you did to stay to the end with my Matty the day she was put down at the animal hospital. I totally lost it. Your passion and love for dogs is apparent in your post. And Noel is doing a great service with her dogs. Loved this post, even with tears in my eyes.I plan to get another dog soon. I do love Dobermans too. Thank you for posting this.
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Thanks so much, Lorraine. I would say it made me cry again, but truth be told - I've yet to stop. This is a tough time for me. I go back and forth about getting another Doberman. Honestly, I don't know if I can live without.
 
+Joanne Jaytanie I hear you. I'm such a dog person too. We will be getting another one soon. It will most likely be a rescue.

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Erika M Szabo

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What a beautiful, emotional post Joanne! You had me in tears and made me whisper the names of my furry friends' that crossed the rainbow bridge.
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Thank you, Erika. I was an emotional rollercoaster to get through it, but I'm glad I stuck it out.




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